Anna, I became much like your Mom after I recovered from a seriously major leg surgery. I couldnt walk normally for several years, as I used a walker. Plus I then got very sick. NOT a good few years. I had five cats back then, and since I could not clean, you can only imagine how grubby my home became. Oh, I DID always clean the litter boxes and the cats dishes. Never skipped that! But other cleaning? Forget about it. As I slowly got better, I realized how dirty it all become. I used cleaning as my personal recovery plan. It hurt like heck most of the time, and I had to go slowly, and I made a bunch of mistakes that first year. I admit that I became somewhat OCD about cleaning during that time. I lived alone then, so my behavior did not affect anyone else. That was five years ago, and I now laugh about the things I did. When I fully recovered and wanted to work again, I realized I no longer wanted to be an RN here in this state. I decided to start cleaning and pet sitting. It was slow going for the first year. Luckily, I do have another income (Social Security). The second year, it all got better, as I perfected what I do, and learned just how to find and keep customers...and get rid of customers I did not like. Now, I stay busy working five days a week, my reputation is great, and I love having the extra income.
I laughed over your description of the nurse who came in wearing her shoes. That same thing happened to ME when I was doing home care! Clean Freaks often cannot understand that to some people, going barefoot or in stockings in a strange home is unpleasant, or maybe even a bit disgusting, no matter how clean the home is! Several of my elderly customers use me to clean BECAUSE I tell them I am a bit OCD about cleaning. LOL!!! It takes all kinds to make the world go 'round.