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post #1 of Old 09-05-2011, 02:52 PM Thread Starter
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VERY awkward situation...help please

I have been cleaning for a woman I'll call Jill for several months now. I also clean for her adult daughter ("Jane"). They live on the same street and I do both houses every other Monday.

This morning Jill's husband was home - this is only the second time he's been home when I've been there to clean. The last time was the last cleaning two weeks ago.

Today while I was cleaning the master bathroom, he came in and said, "I hope you don't find this inappropriate, but do you mind if I kiss you?"

I was completely stunned and said I would mind, and asked him if this was some kind of a joke. He said "No, it is not a joke...I find you very attractive and want to kiss you...can I?" Again, I said no, and reminded him that his wife was right downstairs and said that I am not available.

He handed me a piece of paper and left the room. It was a $100 bill and his phone number.

I thought about leaving but didn't know how I'd explain that to his wife...she's very sweet, and the whole thing was so strange and awkward.

He came back upstairs and said he didn't mean to make me uncomfortable. I asked if his wife knew that he was talking to me (thought maybe they had some kind of arrangement) and he said no. Then he said "I've never cheated on my wife, but I would for you - I'd love to have an affair with you - just think about it, okay?"

I said no, that I would not think about it, and that I am very happy in my relationship and that I adore his wife and daughter.

He said, "Well, just think about it" and left.

Thankfully, he and his wife left after that and I was able to finish the house and get the heck out.

I thought the $100 bill was payment for today, but when I went downstairs I saw my payment on the counter in an envelope (his wife always leaves it that way).

I went back upstairs and left the $100 bill and the paper with his phone number on his nightstand.

At this point, I think I should drop them as clients, but how? It will mean that I'll have to drop the daughter too, since they live two houses apart and I'll need to use an excuse like I am no longer servicing their area.

How would you handle this?
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post #2 of Old 09-05-2011, 07:14 PM
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I'd give the note and the money to his wife.
I'd believe that poor woman in Nigeria who wants to meet me and give me a few million dollars before I'd believ him.
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post #3 of Old 09-09-2011, 11:06 PM
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I am truly sorry

Won't use your name...but I'm the husband and father of "Jill" and "Jane". I am so very sorry for my most unwarranted advance toward you. In a moment of weakness, I said some things to a very attractive young woman that were totally inapproriate and uncalled for. I sincerely hope you will not stop your wonderful service to our homes. We need you, and I deeply appreciate your service. It is very unlikely that I will ever be home when you are scheduled to come. But I give you my promise that if I am to be home at anytime you are to be there, I will ensure that you will not be approached by me in any way.

I make no excuse for my totally unacceptable behavior other than to say I was temporarily transfixed by a very attractive young woman. I was wrong to approach you. It will never happen again.

I wish you all the best in the future and can only hope that you will forgive me.
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post #4 of Old 09-10-2011, 04:26 AM
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Whatever you decide to do is the right thing to do for you.

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post #5 of Old 09-11-2011, 10:04 AM
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Forgive me

L, I am so remorseful over my actions. Can you forgive me? I would like to try and explain in private instead of in an open forum. Please email me at (my first name followed by 658 at cox dot net.

Again, I am so profoundly sorry and embarrassed. I had no right to approach you as I did.

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is this for real? If it is then now the dude just seems like a fawking stalker to me for finding you ona forum. Did he just watch to many movies where the husband gets to bang the house cleaner whenever he wants LOL, EPIC.
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Again, cannot tell you how sorry I am. I hope you decide to forgive me and let it go. No right to ask, but I do hope you decide to not say anything to Jill or Jane. They would be crushed. Believe me, I am suffering enough guilt over my foolish behavior.

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I have been cleaning for a woman I'll call Jill for several months now. I also clean for her adult daughter ("Jane"). They live on the same street and I do both houses every other Monday.

This morning Jill's husband was home - this is only the second time he's been home when I've been there to clean. The last time was the last cleaning two weeks ago.

Today while I was cleaning the master bathroom, he came in and said, "I hope you don't find this inappropriate, but do you mind if I kiss you?"

I was completely stunned and said I would mind, and asked him if this was some kind of a joke. He said "No, it is not a joke...I find you very attractive and want to kiss you...can I?" Again, I said no, and reminded him that his wife was right downstairs and said that I am not available.

He handed me a piece of paper and left the room. It was a $100 bill and his phone number.

I thought about leaving but didn't know how I'd explain that to his wife...she's very sweet, and the whole thing was so strange and awkward.

He came back upstairs and said he didn't mean to make me uncomfortable. I asked if his wife knew that he was talking to me (thought maybe they had some kind of arrangement) and he said no. Then he said "I've never cheated on my wife, but I would for you - I'd love to have an affair with you - just think about it, okay?"

I said no, that I would not think about it, and that I am very happy in my relationship and that I adore his wife and daughter.

He said, "Well, just think about it" and left.

Thankfully, he and his wife left after that and I was able to finish the house and get the heck out.

I thought the $100 bill was payment for today, but when I went downstairs I saw my payment on the counter in an envelope (his wife always leaves it that way).

I went back upstairs and left the $100 bill and the paper with his phone number on his nightstand.

At this point, I think I should drop them as clients, but how? It will mean that I'll have to drop the daughter too, since they live two houses apart and I'll need to use an excuse like I am no longer servicing their area.

How would you handle this?
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im speechless. I would NOT tolerate this.!
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is this real or not?
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post #10 of Old 10-03-2011, 09:29 PM
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This has got to be one of the most interesting posts I think I have ever read on a forum!! It's a believable story to say the least...
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Just do what you wanna do. Some people are .. act in an unacceptable way.

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is this for real? If it is then now the dude just seems like a fawking stalker to me for finding you ona forum. Did he just watch to many movies where the husband gets to bang the house cleaner whenever he wants LOL, EPIC.
Yeah, I'm very freaked out by this right now.

As if I wasn't already uncomfortable...

Unfortunately, this is real...at least, what I've posted is. I'm not sure about the posts by "Very Sorry". Could be someone messing with me, not sure.

Good grief.
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Very Sorry - I'm not going to tell Jill and Jane because I like and respect them far too much.

I don't care to discuss this privately at all. I don't want to discuss it at all, period. I want to forget it happened.

You treated me like a prostitute who could be bought. I'm a very educated, classy, moralistic person. I have a BS in Health Studies, and am currently completing a BS in Psychology. Next year, I hope to begin a Masters in Public Health.

Cleaning houses is hard enough without being treated like trash. I started this business in the hopes that it would help fund my graduate degree (and my children's educations).

Just another example of why I'm such an introvert and generally dislike people.
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I have to say this is one of the strangest things I have ever come across on a forum. Pristine Pixie I agree with the others that you should do what you feel is best for you. Very Sorry- if you truly are the person you claim to be perhaps it would be best if you were never ever home again when your house is scheduled to be cleaned.

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Strange as it is, but professional cleaning is now a job, an occupation and requires training and skills. Respect the cleaner and drow a parallel between house cleaning and other services.

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Sad to say, but it might be best if you walk away from the account WITHOUT being a "homewrecker".

I know scumdogs like this. Even though you are 100% not at fault, these types tend to be pretty aggressive, and I wouldn't doubt it happening again.

He had no right to put you in a situation like that.

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Thank you

I give you my word that you won't see or hear from me again. In cases where I might have a day off that you are scheduled, I'll be elsewhere. I very much appreciate you keeping us as clients. I know they value your service. They've both told me so. I value it also. The house is always so clean when you finish.

This is the last communication from me, I promise.

I did not mean any disrespect. I am certain you are a bright, dedicated, professional young woman. I don't know what led me to say those things to you. I have never done anything like that before in my life. I'm going to rededicate myself to be a better person than that stupid @ss-hole who said those insulting thing.

I wish you all the best now and in the future.

Again, thank you for not hurting Jill or Jane.
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I give you my word that you won't see or hear from me again. In cases where I might have a day off that you are scheduled, I'll be elsewhere. I very much appreciate you keeping us as clients. I know they value your service. They've both told me so. I value it also. The house is always so clean when you finish.

This is the last communication from me, I promise.

I did not mean any disrespect. I am certain you are a bright, dedicated, professional young woman. I don't know what led me to say those things to you. I have never done anything like that before in my life. I'm going to rededicate myself to be a better person than that stupid @ss-hole who said those insulting thing.

I wish you all the best now and in the future.

Again, thank you for not hurting Jill or Jane.
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post #20 of Old 10-14-2011, 04:43 PM
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Pristine Pixie - I would tell Jill what happened. I think that she has the right to know. But whatever you decide, I wish you luck with getting your degree and it is good to see someone working for an education.
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